Why People Fall in love?

Always trust life, and always remain open, flowing. Never carry wounds from the past. The gone is gone – why carry it? If somebody has given you love and pain, why remember the pain? Just remember the love that the person gave.

Man is very very helpless. Even if you want to make somebody happy, some inner mechanism does not allow you to. Even sometimes you may have wanted to be with someone but something inside takes you away in spite of you – as if you are driven, possessed. I see so many people destroying their  relationships. They cry and weep – they don’t want to do it, but they feel helpless.

Remember that only a very small part of the mind is conscious – one tenth; nine tenths is unconscious. And everybody is ruled by the unconscious.

For example, a man falls in love with you. You think he falls in love with you? Something in his unconscious is stirred by you. That’s why people say, ’We don’t know why we have fallen in love.’ Hence the word ’fall’ – because one is almost helpless; one cannot do anything about it. Something from the unconscious arises and clouds the whole being.

This is how man is :  almost a mechanism, not yet conscious.

And that is my whole effort: to make you so conscious that unconsciousness no more dominates you. You become master of your being. 

Then you love a person because you want to, not because the unconscious forces you. Your love has a totally different quality to it. You possess it – you are not possessed by it. Then love can be a life-long thing, or even can go beyond life, can become eternal.

Get Out of Your Own Way

Osho